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15 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

Posted October 23, 2019 By Frank Strona

Ever want to tell your younger self something?

That wishful thinking that comes from knowing what we know now, and how it would have been so useful then. That’s the kind of morning I had one day this week.

We all get those days when we find ourselves in a whirlwind of “what ifs”, ‘what’s next”, “why me” and so on. It’s at this time of the year I sometimes find myself doing it more than others. I am never sure if it is triggered by the changing seasons that remind me that time is moving on or is it just old memories that come home for a visit. I just know that I get reflective and look for my younger self to track the mileage.

Transitions and Changes

In any case, this week I found myself unsettled one night. Old hurt feelings coming to the surface dealing real and (maybe not so real) professional slights. Those struggles when not fitting in, or times when I would feel like an “afterthought” professionally among colleagues. Who would think that after so many years of working and considered a success in my personal and professional life by most people, I would still occasionally find myself in a mental turbine?

So that morning, I took some of my own advice and walked to work to clear the mental cobwebs. While walking I decided to make a list, of the lessons learned that I wish I could have told to my  younger seld. In the end, I liked making the list so much, I stopped along the way to jot some down and next thing I knew I had a full 15 of them.

So consider it my fall harvest bounty to share this with you all. While they may not all resonate with you – I bet you can find a few that do!

15 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

  1. Stay True To Who You Are; but be willing to hear others points of view
  2. Allow Spacefor multiple truths and perceptions
  3. Be Agile; change is a constant, agility allows you movement
  4. Don’t Hold Grudges; today’s enemies may be tomorrows allies
  5. Speak Your Truth; but temper it with clarity and succinctness
  6. Know When To Hold Your Tongueyou don’t have to win every argument or take ownership of a conversation
  7. Find Comfort in Alone Timebeing constantly surrounded by people and distractions, won’t allow you time for your own discovery of you
  8. Don’t Judge; the story playing in someone else’s life is often not the one playing in your mind
  9. Be Strong, but not at the expense of love, vulnerability, and sensitivity
  10. Love Who and How You Wantnever let anyone define the way you love
  11. Forgive Others; you may not forget, but forgiveness allows you to move on
  12. Don’t Be Afraid To Fail; because with failure comes knowledge and experience
  13. Never Stop Reaching For Your Dreams; they don’t happen overnight and they change, but they never leave you fully
  14. Don’t Get Stuck In The Binarybeing right or wrong, good or bad are just moments in time
  15. Live Your Life; we only have one

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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3 Tips to Avoid Ageism in Your Job Search

Posted October 20, 2019 By GuestSpot

It’s not easy to job search at any stage in life, but for older workers, it can feel like a long, drawn-out battle. Although discrimination based on age is prohibited, it’s no secret that companies can and do favor youth over maturity. Many older people find that they can’t even get their resumes reviewed, much less get an interview invitation or a job offer. Here are some tips to help you get your foot in the door and allow your experience and commitment shine through for prospective employers.

Make Your Resume Age-Proof

You’ve probably heard the most common resume tricks for older workers: don’t list dates and only include the last ten years of your employment history. However, some simple details can trip up even the most polished resume. Consider your email address, for example. If you’re still using a service like AOL or Hotmail, that’s as much of an “older person” flag as stating you graduated from college in the eighties. Get a Gmail account for business purposes. Another tip-off of age? Believe it or not, using double spaces after a period is a dead giveaway, as two spaces after a period are an outdated trend leftover from the typewriter age. Run your resume through a word processing program and replace all of them with single spaces—you’ll be glad you did.

Know How to Answer Age-Related Questions

Federal law makes it illegal to age-discriminate against anyone over 39, but that doesn’t mean that interviewers won’t try to get that number out of you by casual-seeming questions such as “When did you finish college?” or “Do you still see yourself working in ten years?” Of course, you don’t want to lie, but at the same time reinforce your qualifications and interest. Many people ignore traditional “retirement ages” and intend to keep working for as long as possible. If you enjoy what you do and have no plans to give it up anytime soon, let the interviewers know that upfront.

Stay Up to Speed on Technology

It’s not enough to keep abreast of current technology in your field–you need to be savvy about social media and general office apps as well. Maybe you’re not a twenty-something who spends his or her life on Instagram and WhatsApp, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t know how they work. Communicating through email and texts have given way to software such as the instant-messaging program Slack, and being able to navigate those—or perhaps, more importantly, being willing to learn—helps greatly to dispel the myth that older workers balk at acquiring new skills. Pay attention to particular programs mentioned in job descriptions, and make sure that you at least know what they do if you’re not familiar with them and express a desire to explore them further.

More and more employers realize the benefits that older workers bring to the table, such as experience, wisdom, reliability, and loyalty, so be confident that you have a lot to offer a potential employer. Keeping your skills sharp and showing enthusiasm for going in new directions will attract your next job no matter your age.

Mistakes That Will Sink Your Startup

Posted October 16, 2019 By GuestSpot

Fifty percent of startups will go out of business within their first five years. However, the issues that bring down the companies that don’t make it are often self-inflicted and core root issues can stem from a lack of preparation. Keep reading for some things to keep in mind to avoid making mistakes that can sink your startup.

Rigid Thinking

One of the flaws that tend to begin the slippery slope to failure is the practice of rigid thinking. This can be more prevalent within companies that only have one majority owner. Often, these owners have no one to answer to, and, thus, their ideas go unchallenged the majority of the time. Companies that fail to accept that their views may not be working as they wished often remain stagnant and keep doing the same things again and again, hoping for a new outcome. Those in this position, where they are the only voice of authority, should consider bringing in a temporary team of advisors to assist. If you can’t afford to do so, your staff is only a few steps away. Set your ego aside and consult with what they believe should be the right path for the company; you may be surprised about the answers you get.

A Rotten Culture

Nothing brings production and revenue to a sudden halt like having a rotten company culture. Having people feel unsafe and unappreciated is not the best motivator for them to continue to put in hard work every day. As the head of the company, it is your duty to ensure that any negative company culture habits are stomped out immediately and that those inflicting these damages to your company are removed. To create a safe work environment for all of your employees, pay attention to complaints when they are filed and recognize signs of sexual harassment in the workplace. Listening to your employees is the first step in repairing any bad habits within your office.

A Lack of Social Media Interaction

Understandably, business leaders have a plethora of things to worry about on a daily basis, so when it comes to replying to one customer on Instagram, it’s understandable how that can look like the least of your worries. The fact is, that customer isn’t just one person, they are a representation of your customer service and interaction with your base, and your base is watching. Waiting too long to reply to a customer question on social media can really put you in a bad light. It makes you look like you don’t care about your customers, and when that happens, your base won’t care about you either. The best recommendation is to set up bots to answer simple customer questions, such as your store hours, contact information and other simple questions. The more serious issues will be directed to your business email or through a telephone call.

Regardless of your industry, if you’re seeking to create your first business, you must keep one thing in mind: Challenges both large and small can mean either the death or survival of your company. Make sure that you prepare adequately for potential challenges so you can help your company to thrive.

How to Stay Unstressed at Work

Posted October 11, 2019 By Frank Strona

Let’s face it stress sucks…

We all are faced with it every day. aware of it or not, it surrounds us. Sometimes, stress is a necessary factor in living an engaged life. In our personal lives, society and our friends/families are always quick to offer ways to address and live beyond stress in our lives.

What many of us forget is that stress in the workplace has an effect on the wellness and productivity on us as leaders and employees. But we often feel we have less support and control over dealing with stress in that environment.

In studies, as many as 40% of respondents have described their work environment as “very or extremely stressful.” Several factors contribute to this type of stress. Burnout is common in many professions, especially high-pressure occupations in which employees feel constantly obligated to meet deadlines. When people feel as though they’re merely cogs in a machine, the perceived lack of appreciation tends to increase their anxiety. Managing difficult personalities is also a major issue. Here are a few ways to help you alleviate stress, remain calm and focus on the tasks at hand while caring for your well-being at the same time.

Stay Organized

Psychologists have long recognized the association between a person’s immediate environment and their mental state. A messy, unkempt desk in a work area breeds confusion, disorder and ultimately stress. For better job performance and a clearer mind, make a conscious effort to declutter. This means filing paperwork routinely and minimizing objects or trinkets that simply get in the way without serving a useful purpose. Take a mental inventory of what you actually use regularly, and then give away, throw away or store items that merely contribute to clutter. A lot of methods exist, it is import to try several until you find one that works for you; some like to use the 5S method to help you maintain your workspace. There are five pillars: sort, set in order, shine, standardize and sustain

Focus on Solutions, Not Problems

Falling into a mental rut is easy when you spend your time passively dwelling on problems rather than actively pursuing solutions. Psychologists refer to this as being reactive rather than proactive. When you take the initiative to confront issues directly, you will inevitably feel more in control of the situation instead of being a passive witness subject to the whims of others or mere chance. Practice assertiveness. For example, if your boss asks you to come in come in on Saturday, consider the request carefully. If it seems reasonable and will not unduly burden you, you should probably accept it. However, you do have a right to courteously refuse unreasonable requests rather than grudgingly acceding and privately stewing over the imposition.

Find a Mentor

You aren’t the only one to have gone through adjusting and responding to work stress. Many organizations now have a “Workforce Development” program or branch. The groups often are integrated teams of people who are looking at the environment and what strengths and weaknesses that exist.  Some places are now even offering mentoring opportunities (long and short-term) to build up resilience and success opportunities.

Make Time for Yourself

No one benefits from an overworked employee. The company loses productivity, and the employee suffers burnout. The human attention span is simply not built to work for excessive periods or continuously without breaks. Even if you don’t think you necessarily need it, take advantage of your break time. You will return to your work more refreshed and with a clearer head. 

Protecting your own mental well-being is largely up to you. Do so proactively. You’ll find that if you declutter and organize better, you’ll simultaneously decrease your stress and increase your productivity.

Improving yourself and your overall wellness is important. If this is something you want to work on, look no further!