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Who would have guessed I was a “prequel”

Ok – so maybe not a real “prequel”. But I do have something newish to share.

In May 2019 I was able to participate in a training with the folks from Storycenter.org as part of its story collections project as part of California State Library System in California Listens – Digital Storytelling for the 21st Library

This one was held down in lovely Half Moon Bay, in it’s incredibly accessible and high tech new library. For two days, 10 of us, with the help of some incredible folks from the Storycenter.org  and the staff of the library mapped out and created our own stories to share.

It was a diverse group of people with a wide range of experiences, genders, orientations, and ethnicities. I knew it was going to be one of those rare opportunities for me to take a risk. Not only by learning some new techniques but by modeling my own place in society.

We spent the first part of the morning discussing the storytelling process. For those of you that read Engage, you know I am a huge fan of the role that stories play as a place of change, healing, growth, and remembrance.  We then had time to draft out and share our story draft within the group for feedback.

So what prequel story was I going to tell?

As I have said in the past “sometimes you have to risk sharing who you were, to be who you are“; I decided to tell some of the backstories to my growing up gay as it related to my Summer 2018 TEDxProvincetown talk as my training tool.  So with 2019’s Pride Season about to kick off, I thought it was fitting to use it as my celebration to share. Hence my calling it “What You See, Isn’t Always What You Know” my prequel to   TEDxPtown’s “What The Bear Could Teach Goldilocks“.

For those of you who think I do this easily or without fear – think again. Even those of us with an external facade of competence, self-reliance, and self-belief get nervous. It’s wasn’t always easy, nor is it without its problems sharing who we are. But making a place for yourself in a world you don’t see yourself reflected in, is better than waiting for others to do it for you. 


The TEDx talk was that initial moment for me. You can read more about the talk itself in its Engage post.

Oh and by the way

 “What The Bear Could Teach Goldilocks

has hit 17,359 views!!!

You read on my TEDxProvincetown experience in my blog post at https://MentorSF.com/Engage/tedx or visit the actual talk at Https://youtu.be/8J-gaUgztjs. 




The NiceAF.org campaign is intending to address the harsh reality, that for some, insults can have profound, lasting effects on how someone can feel about themselves and disrupt a persons ability to thrive.

Facebook is still worth considering as a social media platform that may be able to help you stay connected. Here are some ways to use it for a range of uses.

3 Tech Skills Every Team Member Should Have

Posted April 4, 2019 By GuestSpot

Most communication has gone to an online format. Sales and marketing live on the web. Even team meetings are held with off-site team members using a computer to be virtually present. While no one expects that everyone in your workplace can serve as an IT specialist, it is very helpful for all employees to have some basic technical knowledge. Here are three tech skills that you should encourage your staff to learn.

Starting your own business can be one of the most rewarding and life-changing decisions that you can ever make. It will be one of the most challenging as well, but that is all a part of the journey. Becoming your own boss has a host of different benefits that can end up improving your overall quality of life. You might just realize that tapping into your entrepreneurial side is the thing that has previously been missing from your life experience.

Ever want to learn how to do your own video storytelling?

Posted March 22, 2019 By Frank Strona

You all know how I am a big fan of storytelling in any form. It is even something I include as one of the MentorSF programs.  So anytime I find training worth sharing about I will. Here is one coming up in May from one of my favorite programs

3 Important Aspects of Developing a Strong Team

Posted March 8, 2019 By GuestSpot

A business starts with a vision that is communicated through a mission statement. When you hire the staff, you are asking them to live up to the promise of that mission statement. It is crucial that you develop a strong team that will remain focused on the goal of success. Here are three important aspects of developing that strong team for your company.

In the past, I have written about ways to “get yourself out there” and be noticed.

Yet, many of us still wake up and wonder “how can I get myself invited to those cool events as a speaker?

Especially with the wide range of digital media today – being a guest on someone else’s blog or podcast can take some work, a little bit of luck and lots of practice.

This flourish workshop is a reflective and interactive experience for gay/bi and other men who enjoy sex with men and who yearn to flourish – Discover deep sources of meaning and energy to uncover your own uniquely fabulous flourishing, at whatever stage of life.

A Night Of Ideas; One Theme, 120 Cities, 70 Events, 65 countries; Feb 2 2019

This year, Night of Ideas will take place in five U.S. cities culminating in San Francisco at the San Francisco Public Library – Feb 2.  A Night of Ideas is 7-hour marathon of philosophical debate, performances, screenings, readings & music